TRUE CONFESSIONS

TRUE CONFESSIONS

I punished my daughter's bully

Thursday, April 2, 2009
A few years ago, my 11-year-old daughter was being picked on at school by a girl in her class who was stealing her lunch every day.

I noticed that my daughter was losing weight rapidly, and always seemed to come home from school hungry. When I approached my daughter about what had happened to her lunch, she simply said that she had shared it with another girl.

After this had been going on for a few weeks, I demanded to know what was going on. My daughter eventually broke down and confessed that a girl in her class was stealing it every day. When pressed for details, she admitted that it was one of her friends. Every day, a girl — whose parents were dentists — was stealing anything and everything that had sugar in it from my daughter's lunchbox.

Immediately concerned — not only for my own daughter, but also for the other child — I rang the other child's mother. Formerly a close friend, I was anxious to report to her that her daughter was doing the wrong thing. I was glad that this matter would be settled in an adult way at last.

Upon calling, however, I was greeted with accusations of lying. The mother, so firmly in denial about the delinquency of her daughter, insulted both myself and my daughter a few times, accused me once more of lying, and hung up on me.

My daughter had expected me to fix everything with one magical phone call and was waiting for me to tell her everything was going to be fine now. I didn't want to lie to her, however, so I just said to tell me how it went the next day.

The next day was much the same, only worse. Angry that my daughter had 'tattled' on her, the other child had progressed to hitting my daughter in order to get the food she wanted. After seeing my daughter come home with bruises up and down her arms, and in tears again, I decided it was time for more drastic action.

A short trip to the chemist later, I was armed with every parent's worst nightmare — a packet of chocolate laxatives. I instructed my daughter, very specifically, not to eat them, but only to let the other child to steal them, and sent her off to school.

Picking my daughter up that day, she was mysteriously silent. Asking her how her day was, a giant grin spread across her face. Practically gushing, she told me about the other girl's accident.

Laughing hysterically, she recounted how she had tried to talk the girl out of stealing her lunch, but in the end, the girl had snatched the chocolate out her hands and eaten it right in front of her. It wasn't until after lunch that the other girl had begun to get sick.

"Oh mum, you should have seen it," my daughter said. "The teacher asked what she'd had to eat, but all she said was that she'd had some chocolate that I gave her. I swear mum, right there in the classroom! She just pooped! And pooped and pooped and pooped."

I smiled, glad that things had been settled once and for all.

"Oh, but mum," said my daughter, piping up from the backseat. "The teacher says that next time I share chocolate, I have to bring enough for the whole class. Can I bring some more tomorrow?"

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deserves the bully right, i know if i had children it is was i would do. you are always told to look out and stand up for the ones you love - i have 4 brothers and sisters and it is what we have grown up living by. GOOD WORK MUM!!
Hmmm, eating sugary things as a way to rebel the parents? On another note, consider sugar substitute? Or maybe just some chewing gums after eating.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA YOUR MY IDOL.
Brilliant tactic. As a mother was put in the same situation. I approached the other mother in the exact same way hoping to settle amicably. Didn't realise was up against a narcissistic mum who couldn't separate her childs actions from her own. She started bullying me in a covert way spreading poison to other mums. This them filtered down to the children and instead of dealing with one bully she was dealing with a classful. Bullying spreads like a cancer.Upshot I took my child out of that school after much damage had been done and home educated her for two years. Finally got her settled and happy in a new school. I wish I had thought of this. I know what the teacher meant as my daughters teacher was at a loss to stop the situation as it is so underhand. The smile and rise of self esteem and the support of her mum and teacher must have been a great self esteem booster for her child it was a fun and creative way in how to deal with it. Lol
WOW wat a good mother. that bully deserved !
How easy it is for all of us to give our opinions and judgements of others actions? To sit up on our pedestals and judge? I neither agree nor disagree with the mothers actions...She did try to handle the situation in an amicable way only to be bullied and insulted herself. On the other hand I dont think she actually taught her daughter a lesson in how to handle the ups and downs of life and could in fact be contributing to turning her own daughter into a bully. Only time will tell...I also agree that most schools do not handle bullying adequately which is a great shame. I dont know what I would have done in the same position and neither would most of the people that have left comments, until actually faced with it yourself. I feel sorry for all those involved
I read in another comment that the punishment was not long lasting for the "bully". Do you really think that now the other kids will ever let her forget that she was 'pooping' all day in class. That will follow her for a very long time. It seems her parents were rather strict and did not allow sweets. She is 11, her mother extremely cross, feels like she has lost face, confronts her young daughter and so she says 'no it's not true'. Most 11 year olds would! I'm not saying what she was doing was right, but really perhaps you could've handled it better than you did. Perhaps you could have explained to your daughter the type of parents she had and maybe put in an extra sweet that your daughter could have actually given to her. Perhaps even you could have approached the teacher. I understand not all teachers take bullying seriously, however being one myself, I'd prefer to be given the chance, rather than one of my students being completely humiliated.
I think this is a crack up. I know if it was done to my child by someone elses mother then I wouldn't like it but I can't help but think this little rat bag deserved it. I would have also given the other mother the time of day if she had something to say about my daughter being a bully, you cant put your kids on a pedistal and ignore the wrong they could be doing. whats done is done and hopefully this little rat bag will learn not to bully.
She wasn't actually hungry, but her parents were dentists and probably only gave her really healthy food, so she stole the girl's sweets and sugary foods, such as chocolate. Why did the teacher want her to bring more for the whole class the next day though?
Why was the other child so hungry to begin with? She even said the only she'd had to eat was the chocolate. Sounds like the real problem was that her parents weren't feeding her.

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