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US mother sends bullied boy to school with stun gun

Tuesday, May 8, 2012
"I do not promote violence — not at all — but what is a parent to do when she has done everything that she felt she was supposed to do at the school?"
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The mother of an openly gay high school student in the US armed her son with a stun gun so that he could defend himself from bullying, saying that she had no choice.

But Chelisa Grimes' decision backfired. Her son was arrested by school police and has been suspended after he was approached by six bullies and tried to scare them off by holding the gun in the air.

The Indianapolis mum told CNN that her son, who was bullied for being gay and wearing female apparel to school, needed to be protected. She says that the school did nothing to support her son Darnell "Dynasty" Young's complaints.

"I do not promote violence — not at all — but what is a parent to do when she has done everything that she felt she was supposed to do at the school?"

Grimes says that the bullying affected Darnell's behaviour at school and at home and his grades had dropped from A's to F's.

Darnell, 17, says he was targeted by bullies before admitting he was gay. He said fellow classmates would call him names and throw rocks and other objects at him.

"All day I'd be on my guard," he told the Indy Star. "It never got better. It always got worse."

Arsenal Tech High School principal Larry Yarrell said that he doesn't defend students' anti-gay attitude, but there wasn't much he could do about the bullying.

"If you wear female apparel, then kids are kids and they're going to say whatever it is that they want to say," he said.

Yarrell and the staff at the high school instructed Darnell to "tone it down as much as possible", referring to his attitude and clothing choices, in order to make his time at the school more bearable.

"They're just trying to make his transition over here as easy as they possibly can," he said of the suggestion.

At this point, Darnell's mother decided to take matters into her own hands. "If they weren't going to protect him, I'll protect him," she said.

Darnell was sent to school with a stun gun and after a few weeks of carrying it in his bag, he was approached by six students who made physical threats towards him.

Darnell then took out the gun and held it up in the air hoping that it would scare off the students. It worked but school police were called to arrest the teen. Once the stun gun was recovered he was suspended from school and now faces the possibility of expulsion.

Meanwhile, the bullies who verbally attacked Darnell are yet to be punished because the witnesses who confirmed Darnell's version of events have refused to identify the bullies.

A hearing on the matter has taken place, but a decision has yet to be announced.

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It is absolutely irrelevant what the boy was wearing. The school is to blame and the bullies should have been suspended, then expelled if that did not stop it. That won't change the behaviour whinge the vocal minority. That is also irrelevant. We CANNOT change their behaviour. But it IS in our power to protect the victims. This is a disgraceful situation and the bullied boy should receive counselling, and if I was his mother I would take these clowns to court to pay for the pyschological help he is going to need to recover from the attacks of the bullies. The boy was desperate. The school didn't care. He did nothing wrong. Anyone is entitled to defend themselves.
So now the victims have to change so they are not bullied any more. Girls have to dress like the Muslim women so that they don't get raped and women have to learn to just shut up and do as they are told so they don't suffer from domestic violence. It's all about the perp and not the victim now is it!
as a mother l would stand by my children and their sexual preferences and defend them, but school is school and kids will be kids! The student in question can be gay without the need to wear female apparel to school, this will only encourage bullying. I feel very sorry for any child that doesn't fit the "normal sterotype" at school but a parent should try to help them fit in while at school and not provide weapons.
How many schoolyard shootings have to happen in the US before the schools finally decide to crack down on bullying and send the message it isn't acceptable in? For too long, bullies have been pandered to and some parents of bullies (usually right wing fundamentalists) even try to defend their spawns' "constitutional right" to discriminate against gay, lesbian, bi and transgender kids! I know it sounds messed up, but what are all these poor kids at the end of their tether supposed to do when the school turns its' back on them? The US is the country that schoolyard shootings started in, you know why? Because of the disgusting, jock loving, making excuses 'not my boy' type of crap that simply enrages and dismays those who are not popular and those who are vulnerable to hatred, at such a critical point in their developing lives. How the US school system can simply shrug and turn away when students are bullied is sickening! But when a bullied kid tries to stand up for themselves...? police
I don't blame the boy for bringing a stun gun to school.The school had a duty of care to ensure every child is safe at school but they did nothing to stop the bullying.Bullying can do a lot of damage physcologically.
as a parent of a bullied kid i think the school's have a duty of care to protect our children when they are at school. i think the school's weak excuse is that there is nothing they can do they are wrong suspend the bullies or get the police involved with the situation. i believe the school's are backing up the bullies and that is why some teenagers are comitting suicide because nothing gets done about the bullies and they think there is no where or no one to turn to and this saddens me to the highest point of a mountain.
This does not suprise me at all! My 10 year old son who was diagnosed with Aspergers has been bullied his whole school life at the same Catholic school. Recently the bullying escalated. The principle told us that the culprits would not face any consequences for their bullying because punishment is outdated and non-effective. My son expressed his feelings of utter hoplessness when he confided in me that he spends time in his room thinking about hanging himself from his ceiling fan! When I told the principle how my son was feeling and thinking she replied, "You do realise I'm in the recieving end." The principle is also a Paramedic. I now homeschool my son and his two siblings!
That principal needs to be suspended from duties immediately pending an outside investigation. How can someone who is there to protect the students in their care do so little to help. My young sister was bullied by other girls in her class for no apparent reason, and while the teachers spoke to the students nothing else was done. The bullying continued and eventually she changed schools. Darnell needs to take his case to the police and have his bullies charged for verbal abuse, threats for grevious bodily harm, discrimination etc, whatever they can use the make it stick. There may also be a charge he could file against the school. Someone needs to be made an example of here.
I didn't send my son to school with a stun gun..but in the end when he was hiding from the bullies..when the girl who started it all had lied and lied and the School did nothing to protect him..but let her get her little gang of bullies to attack him.I had to take him out of the school he was suppost to be at and have him go to independent study. My daughter was bullied a year later from the same group..but not for anything she did but for her brother..still the school did nothing..She also went to independent study so as not to be afraid..I think the school principal Larry Yarrell should be ashamed..he is just like the principals in my kids school..to afraid to get the guts to do what he is suppost to do. Most kids who end up in the news for violence at school we find out later were pushed to it by bullies and the school and teachers knew about it and did NOTHING.
ok , i get that what the principal said is not good. he really can attend to the situation and be a bit more proactive to control the situation. however the kid shouldnt be wearing female apperal to school. Its making the situation worse for himself.like putting petrol in fire. changing to boys apperal is better than taking a stun gun to school.

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