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How to keep your New Year's resolutions

By Leni Andronicos
Friday, December 30, 2011
How to keep your New Year's resolutions
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People desperate for a life overhaul make the mistake of vowing several changes at once. Bad idea.
By Leni Andronicos

So you’ve vowed to improve your fitness, meet The One, spring clean your lifestyle and pay off your credit card. Whatever your New Year’s resolutions, the sad truth is that come January, a vast majority will be broken.

According to Tom Connellan, author of “The 1 Percent Solution: How to Make Your Next 30 Days the Best Ever”, 25 percent of resolutions are abandoned by the first week of January.

There are many reasons why resolutions aren’t kept, but according to Connellan, three stand out.

We rely on motivation only. People believe they will find one secret trick to motivating themselves when motivation actually comes from small successes.

We only think big. People only think in large terms that are often unrealistic – like losing lots of weight or making a major life change.

We don’t realise that even positive change is uncomfortable. Change, even good change, is a break from the norm.

So to keep your resolution all year long, take note of the following tips for crafting out your life changes in 2012.

Focus on one resolution. People desperate for a life overhaul make the mistake of vowing several changes at once. Bad idea. Committing yourself to a whole list of improvements is overwhelming, and most likely, unachievable. (Can you really put in more hours at the office in hope of a promotion while spending more time with the kids? Exactly.) Pick one habit, behaviour or trait that you truly want to tweak and make it your task for 2012.

Give yourself a reasonable timeline. Resolutions like “I’m going to lose five kilos by February” are certainly admirable, but in such a limited time frame, are not likely achievable. Giving yourself a reasonable time frame, along with decent parameters, will help you keep on track. Set weekly or monthly goals and monitor your success along the way – tweaking as you go.

Don’t do it alone. Telling your friends and family about your resolution might be daunting at first, but keeping your loved ones in the loop offers two advantages: Firstly, they’ll keep you away from potential threats (your signature desert dish) and secondly, that extra bit of support from the people rooting for you, will make you try harder at achieving your goal.

Your say: Have you ever followed through with a New Year’s resolution? Share your story below.




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User comments
I stopped smoking last year and gave myself a whole year without any other life- style changes (even though I wanted to do some other things). I found just being gentle on myself and congratulating myself for stopping smoking was enough for one year and I feel great. Now, this year, I have set a goal of watching much less television. That's it. However, this will hopefully have flow on effects like spending more time in the garden, playing music and just being more active around the house. Good luck everyone!
I had achieved 80 per cent of my written goals set out for 2011 by the end of yesterday. They were all written, realistic, defined and measurable. If you plan your goals this way it is probable you will achieve most of them all the time, just don't get to upset if your timeline is wrong, just adjust it as you go along.
I've also found that starting before new years, be it a few days, a week or a month before, helps me to follow through with a resolution (in my case exercise). I think it works because I don't all of a sudden feel pressured to change my lifestyle in one day, so being able to build up to it makes it easier. Another thing that helps me to keep exercising is not making a time of day to excercise in (because I will be dreading that time all day) but a certain amount of time that I have to exercise for within 3 days or a week (because I feel like I have more freedom to do it when I have the most energy). Hope that helped!!

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