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Cheating men spend more on their mistress than wife

Thursday, December 22, 2011
Cheating men spend more on their mistress than their wife
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"Men often see their mistresses as playing more "surface", decorative roles in their lives, providing sex and affection without much emotional attachment."
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It seems Christmas shopping for some men has become a little more expensive this year, with a new study finding that cheating men spend more money on their mistress than their wife.

The statistics taken from 2,000 men who use the Illicit Encounters website, an extra marital affairs dating service in the UK, found that cheating men spend an average of $192 on their mistress’ presents, while $170 is spent on their wives, the UK’s Daily Mail reported.

During the study 89 percent of men admitted to choosing something ‘ultimately decorative with that being it’s sole purpose’ for their mistress in comparison to 42 percent of the men surveyed choosing an item like this for their wife.

Half of men preferred to chose something ‘practical and useful for around the home’ for their wife.

Cheating expert and spokesperson for Illicit Encounters, Rosie Freeman-Jones says the way men buy gifts shows how they feel about their relationships.

“The difference in the sort of gifts men choose to buy for their mistress and wives mirror the different ways married men often view these two relationships,” she said.

“Men often see their mistresses as playing more "surface", decorative roles in their lives, providing sex and affection without much emotional attachment.

“This explains why mistresses receive less practical and more "pretty" gifts.”

Rosie said that over time men start to see their wives as needing more practical things than pretty things.

“On the other side of the coin, a man's relationship with his wife, after time, becomes less about being pretty and more about being practical - the bigger issues of mortgages and maintenance overtake the seemingly less important things like romance,” she said.

“The less a husband thinks of his wife as a sexual being, the more functional and "unsexy" his gifts will become.”

And according to the Illicit Encounters website, Christmas is their busiest time of year with a rise of 200-300% in activity and new members joining on the site.




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Hello, I am a private investigator and operator of a business called Spouse Spy. We investigate all types of domestic situations from cheating partners to child custody disputes. Some studies are suggesting that up to 60% of men and 45% of woman are reporting at least one occasion of an affair during their marriage or relationship, and up to 70% of all marriages have experienced at least one case of infidelity whether it be known or not. These figures are quite frightening to say the least. A lot of people will say "why do you need a private investigator, if your not happy then leave". While that is true there are normally factors such as children and economic reasons while people remain in their relationship along with being comfortable. Many of our clients who have hired us a thankful for at least finding out the truth so that they can make the right decisions. Take a look at our site for further information. www.spousespy.com.au
"If the woman you are married to and who is the mother of your children doesnt warrent a gift based on thought and love, then you truely are a twisted human being. Simple- if she has time to look after you and raise your children- put up with your family and you - doesn't that prove that effort should be given and love is required- ? I think your selfishness as a whole cheating on a woman who does everything she can for you - just shows the type of gutless human being you are" So, a man's gift should be based on thought and love because you don't give him any thought or love. The reason he should is because a female is doing everything for herself. SHE wants to bludge and not work. SHE wants to have a great relationship with the kids and always be there for them. SHE wants to keep her own house clean. She doesn't have any family he has to deal with. All he is is a walking wallet to be tolerated at best. So a man's gifts should be based on what she does for herself. I think they are.
I was married but not always happy, but could never cheat on my husband as he is a good man, but i was not interested in having sex as the love in love making was gone from me. Had he cheated i wouldn't blame him, but would never forgive him. I ended my marriage after 20 yrs & for me it was the best thing I did for me. I am happier now & am blessed with beautiful children. If you love your partner, if you have children, don't cheat on them as they deserve to have an honest person share their life. If you're not happy or in love end it! I have friends whose partners cheated on them & yrs later they still wonder what they did to deserve such betrayal & trusting again is difficult! We all deserve happyness. IF YOU DON'T LOVE - LEAVE!!!
Has a similar study been done for cheating women?
If the woman you are married to and who is the mother of your children doesnt warrent a gift based on thought and love, then you truely are a twisted human being. Simple- if she has time to look after you and raise your children- put up with your family and you - doesnt that prove that effort should be given and love is required- ? I think your selfishness as a whole cheating on a woman who does everything she can for you - just shows the type of gutless human being you are
To Tough Call - you have got to be kidding! You married your wife, to love and obey her! Regardless of what you spend on her throughout the year. Man up and either leave her or sort yourself out! Cheating makes me physically sick, I'm 22 and all you "cowards" are the reason I will never get married. People like you ruin it for everyone else. I'd rather have a Kim Kardashian type situation than being in a marriage when the other is with someone else. Give your wife the best christmas present ever this year and man up and come clean! No one deserves the heartache - Imagine if you found out she was cheating on you?
Look, if you believe you cant be faithful, do not stay married to someone. It will break their heart. I watched my mother go through this, and the devastation it causes is surpassed only by death. Open marriages are fine for some, but i do think long term these people wont be happy. How many happy oldies do you see, married for 50 years etc.. they stayed faithful, it is just todays views that are wrong. I married for life, hubby and I married for 16 years, no affairs. COMMUNICATION is the key, dont take someone for granted, and be happy with yourself.
there is no excuse for cheating...if you are not happy with your partner then just leave the relationship at the end of the day they are the ones that get hurt not you..buying christmas for your mistress is so damn stupid do you honest believe they deserve it after all they are the ones wrecking the marriage..so all you cheaters out there grow up and stop thinking about yourself and think what this is doing to other's...i don't like cheaters
My ex gave his girlfriend an expensive necklace for which, in reality, I paid half. The sooner society stops accepting that money brought into a marriage is the sole property of the man, the sooner men will start to respect their wives' contribution to the marriage. It is insane to think a woman is not entitled to half the money made within the workforce when she is responsible for the safety and well being of the children, a thankless, challenging, exhausting experience. Most women who have the luxury of returning to the workforce will attest to the fact that office work or manual labour is a breeze compared with having someone clinging to your clothes, demanding your full attention, constantly whining, crying, incessantly talking and the many and varied other cleaning, cooking, shopping duties associated with rearing children. Yet society only values the man's contribution. Men should stop spending their wife's money on their girlfriends. Selfish, disrespectful behaviour.
Hahaha I had to laugh at this because it all rings very true. After 13 years with my Husband we are now separated due to his inablility to keep his mouth shut about his girls on the side and I have to admit that the thing about boring gifts for the wife rings very true to the point he would just let me buy my own gifts for birthdays and christmas thats how freaking lazy he was! So ladies if you keep getting a Vacum cleaner for chirstmas or nothing at all I would be looking deeper into that!

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