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Women fake orgasms to keep their man: study

Thursday, November 24, 2011
Women fake orgasms to keep their man: study
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"One particular reason that emerges from a lot of studies is 'to keep my partner interested in this relationship,' or 'to prevent him from defecting [from] the relationship or 'leaving the relationship for another woman'," Kaighobadi said.
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Women who are unsure whether their man is faithful are more likely to fake orgasms and engage in "mate-guarding" behaviours in an effort to hold on to their man, a new US study has found.

The research, conducted at the HIV Centre for Clinical and Behavioural Studies at Columbia University, is the first to find a quantitative link between suspicions of infidelity to the likelihood of faking orgasm.

Study researcher Farnaz Kaighobadi said woman often fake orgasms to hold on to their relationship.

"A lot of the time, women are using it just as a tool to strengthen their relationship," she told LiveScience.

"Sometimes women could be pretending orgasm just to show love and care to their partner."

Of the woman surveyed for the research about half of the respondents said they had faked an orgasm at some point in their lives.

"One particular reason that emerges from a lot of studies is 'to keep my partner interested in this relationship,' or 'to prevent him from defecting [from] the relationship or 'leaving the relationship for another woman'," Kaighobadi said.

In order to see if these feelings were relevant to other woman, Kaighobadi distributed surveys to 453 women, ranging in age from 18 to 46, who had been in relationships for at least six months.

About 54 percent of the women reported they had faked an orgasm at some point in their relationship. The woman who had faked orgasms were found to be more suspicious about their partners' fidelity than the women who said they hadn't faked any orgasms.

This group of woman was also actively "mate-guarding" which can mean anything from simply dressing up nicely to impress their partner to keeping tabs of where he goes to telling off other women who look at him.

"It seems that women who were more likely to pretend orgasm were also more likely to do a variety of these behaviours at the same time," Kaighobadi said.

The researchers didn't ask how satisfied the women were with their sexual relationships Kaighobadi said, so it was unknown whether faking orgasm is related to lower levels of satisfaction in bed.

Kaighobadi added the survey did not ask woman how satisfied they were with their sexual relationships. However, the research, published in the November issue of the Archives of Sexual Behaviour, could help inform about whether the female orgasm is adaptive; meaning it somehow gives women an evolutionary advantage.

In the past, researchers have argued over whether orgasms help a woman retain sperm from valued partners, and whether having orgasms keeps a male partner interested.

"Only one or two studies provide evidence of whether there is an adaptive function or not," Kaighobadi said. "We're not sure, and I think there should be a lot more study."




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I have a question for you...have you ever been in love?
You must be a man, Mat, since all I have done is quote what females THEMSELVES say. PLUS, females have been calling men snakes, dogs, pigs, rats, paedophiles, thugs etc., for 50 years and you want me to treat females equally don't you? Another example - If a female goes on a date she will pay for herself if she is sure she won't have sex with him so that she does not feel obligated. Which means if she will have sex with him, he can pay for it. Simple fact from the mouths of females. Another example - If a man artificially inseminates a female he does not have to pay "child support". If he had sex with her then he does have to pay. A child is the result in each instance so he is paying for the sex. Simple fact. If a man has a girl friend across town and he helps her out financially, she can take him to the Family Court to make him pay for the sex since she didn't ever bear his children or clean his house. Simple fact.
Gah, stop generalising all women like that. Seems as though you're a women hater or you've been burnt a few times by making WRONG choices of women. Perhaps find a woman that will love you for YOU and not your damned money and she will have sex for her own gratification. I assure you I would 100% prefer to be intimate with my man than cleaning a bloody toilet bowl! You are a right fool if you think women are the only ones who marry for selfish reasons. I admit I see it a lot, and it's quite sad how easily families break down. I think you have got to ask yourself why you're so bitter. Revaluate yourself and your choices instead of projecting hate and putting all of us women who do the right thing by men in a pigeon hole.
and this would be coming from the mind of yet another beligirent male? perhaps the thought hadn't occure to you, but what this study is suggesting is that women over time have been taught to be naturally wary of men and to guard their hearts properly, this i would say is a long term effect of a man's primal instinct to stick his *** into anything that moves, men are visual creatures after all and now i can safely say that all your comment did was prove that the only thing between you ear is empty storage space.
We know that A Woman Needs a Man Like a Fish Needs a Bicycle. So why would a female want to "engage in "mate-guarding" behaviours". Oh, that's rite, it's the money. A satisfying sex life doesn't even rate a mention on a female's LONG wish list. That's because females want their bills paid for, first and foremost. Females expect to be paid for having sex. If a female does not get the thing she had sex for then she will claim she has been used for sex. It's not like she would have sex for her own gratification. We also know that females would rather eat chocolate, go shopping or clean the toilet than make love with the man they love. If she wants sex she will have sex with any other man than her husband. Ruth Ostrow quoted the figure that 30% of females deliberately married "the wrong guy" for purely selfish reasons. Females are completely stupid. They have been told for 50 years that marriage is the domination and subjugation of females yet they are desperate to marry. Idiots.
That's another reason not to worry about what other people think about you! Including and perhaps especially men! love, Helen

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