Will Smith's open relationship

Wednesday, July 2, 2008

WEDNESDAY JULY 2, 2008

Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith are one of Hollywood's most enduring married couples. In a candid interview with UK magazine Reveal, he suggests that having an open relationship is one of the secrets to their success.

"Our perspective is, you don't avoid what's natural and you're going to be attracted to people." he says.

"And if it came down to it, then one would say to the other: 'Look, I need to have sex with somebody. Now, I'm not going to if you don't approve of it'."

The 39-year-old star explains that the couple's open policy has been in place from day one of their 10-year marriage.

"In our marriage vows, we didn't say 'forsaking all others'. We said 'you will never hear I did something afterwards'. Because if that happens the relationship is destroyed."

Other things that Will says are important in his relationship are keeping in shape for his "little firecracker" Jada, the "look in her eyes", and communication.

"And lots of sex makes for a good marriage too!"

Your say:
Do you agree with Will's reasoning behind an open relationship? Have your say below...

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I dont mind, if they love each other its cool. I dnt mind being one of those 2attractive" people

I say, let them do what they want. I'm all for Open Relationships. I'm in one myself. Though... it gets a bit tricky when the crazed religious people get involved. People should just let people do what they want to do, unless of corse it's murder. =P

I don't understand why people are freaking out so much over loving more than one person. Since when does love work like that? Is love a finite resource? If you have two kids, would you love each of them less than if you had one? What about your friends? Are you only allowed to have one friend? Would having more than one friend devalue your relationship with each individual? Each friendship offers you something slightly different, but you love and respect each of them, right? What about current vs. past relationships? You loved person A at one point in time, and had a relationship with them. Now you're with person B... does that mean that you denounce any love you had for person A? If you can love both people at two different points in time, then I think it's very possible to love two (or more) people at the same time. Loving two different people at two different times doesn't devalue it at all. If anything, it gives both loves more meaning. The same concept can work with polyamorism.

I respect Will and Jada's decision to have an open marriage because they are honest with each other and they know who they are. Society is so quick to judge people that are in open relationships and open marriages. They rather be deceitful and cheat behind their partners back and then try to jusify what they did. Society needs to realize not everyone is going to live the perfect traditional life. We are all different individuals that have a choice of how we want to live and if your lifestyle is different from others that is your business. Our society is so sex crazed but at the same time we are hypocrits that are two faced. Relationships are about a lifestyle choice that involves people that are secure in themselves and their partners. Monogomy is not anymore safer than open relationships. Marriage doesn't mean safety either. So people get off of it and stop judging other people's decision to live their lives the way they want to.

Sorry i dont agree with this open relationship crap, If you want to get married and still screw every "attractive" person u see, then WHATS THE POINT GETTING MARRIED!!! people are just *** on the sanctity of marriage and it makes me sick. Being married means u are commited to that ONE PERSON, youre not supposed to give into TEMPTATION, obviously theres gonna be attractive people around all the time, does that mean you should screw them? NO!! if thats the case then marriage wasnt necessary. I dont see this as a successful marriage at all, its disgusting what they do, i dont care who they are and how much money they have, when judgement day comes, they will have alot of explaining to do.

Well ive been in a relationship for 18 years. Its more about honesty, about raising those feelings when you have them as opposed to leading a duplicitous life behind someones back. Its about saying ive got these feelings and talking about them. splitting up if necessary. But over time its folly to say you dont care, it just allows you to save face in a way, to not be lied to and cheated on. It still hurts in exactly the same way great sex or not. Long term relationships without it turn comatose and you lose who you are, so its not about sleeping with multiple people all the time its about allowing the partner the ability to make a decision involving those feelings, to either say go for it, or no, i cant share, ill move on truth hurts no less than lies, but it means more and allows both people to make decisions rather than humiliating one behind their backs.

After reading some of the opions of those who say that both Will and Jada have unhealthy relationship should take a look at themselves. Once again the people and there so called religions have shown a short sighted and narrow minded out of date attitude towards relationships. There appears to be many advantages to couples in a open relationship and the ability they have to express themselves and to live life without secrets and lies far better than some of the christians who go to church each week and ask forgiveness. Human nature has not change over the years people become attractive to people from all walks of life and it is important for people to allow themselves to be themselves and not be imprisoned. My partner and I have considered of late to look at the possiblilities of expanding our horizons with someone else coming into our life. We have decided that we are not intersted in the conformed belief as what most relationship base their commitment on.

I think this is ridiculous. The point of marriage is to commit to one person, otherwise its just dating. It's like saying "you're my main woman, but you're not enough" or, I love you, but not enough to fight the urge to be intimate with others. This is a very naive decision, and they overlook an important aspect... EMOTIONS... what happens when either of them finds something in someone else that gives them a deeper connection... it's not just sex, it's attraction, chemistry and emotions... and for all of you who make comments about it being judgemental shut up! There is a difference between judging and having an opinion... we as Christians arent condemning them... we state our beliefs, and our opinions... to have an opinion is not to judge.... be serious... i.e. beating a child is wrong... to say that as a fact being a christian or an atheist is not judgmental... get off the religion thing... those are our beliefs what we base them off of shouldnt be an issue!

Sounds all good and dandy... but what are their views on 'disease' and 'pregnancy' while they are with the other people? When you swing you increase the risk of such things. One can get AIDS, Hep C... all kinds of stuff. The pregnancy thing can be easily controlled if they had all the children they care to, they both can get themselves fixed. But disease is up to fate (condoms is not 100 percent effective). And not only that Will was very vague... he didn't actually say he has... he just simply stated if they wanted to they would get permission first, that don't necessary means they have. But it's not easy answer when it comes to relationship. If you can be monogamous I think it's something you should strive for, but if you can't be YOU JUST AS WELL BE REALISTIC, HONEST and MATURE. So on that level I commend the couple. How many of us sneak around lieing.

i am not the one to judge. but i will never be willing to go outside my relationship. it says in the bile that thou shall not commit adultry and that is commiting adultry and there is no other way to say it. eventually one of them will betray one another and the whole idea of this open relationship will eventually *** up and the marriage will be over, because this is not how god intended on a marriage to be. i guess they will teach there kids the same.